Oh, the speech is such a difficult discipline. And when you start to think about having to make it to the one you love in front of family and friends – without drowning your words in tears – then you easily get lost for words. But do not worry – we give you some pointers on how to give the speech of your life.
In rhetorics, we talk about three genres of speech; the political, the legal and the ceremonial. The wedding speech falls into the last category. Here the premise is that you either praise of tease. It is mainly the praising words about your loved one that should constitute the bulk of your wedding speech, but you can balance it with a bit of teasing. If you praise everything – from the way he kisses you to the way he ties his shoes – then your speech quickly becomes incredible.
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The focus of the speech is love, but it should be a speech about what is unique for your love. If you start with: “When you look up love in the dictionary...”, you speech quickly looses its credibility. You do not need to be innovative, but rather establish and revive your love for each other.
When you praise your husband for his generosity, his care and warmth, then just don’t say it. Underpin your message with specific examples. The first time I saw how caring a person you are, was when you... It creates a sense of presence and togetherness and that is what your speech all about.
Is the first speaker the groom, the toastmaster or the father of the bride.
See the right order here:
1. First speaker
The first speaker is always the host, who is usually one of the newly weds’ parents or the groom.
2. Second speaker
This is where the toastmaster presents him/herself and tells the party to contact him/her if they want to speak.
3. Third speaker
The father of the bride is the third speaker. He welcomes the groom to the family.
4. Fourth speaker
Now it is the groom’s turn. According to tradition, he will thank the host for the party (unless he has paid for it himself), he then thanks the bride’s parents for his beautiful bride before he gives his speech to you.
5. Fifth speaker
It’s now turn for the best man to speak. Typically a fun speech about the groom’s time as a bachelor and their long friendship.
6. Sixth speaker
The father of the groom will now speak. He speaks directly to the bride and welcomes her to the family.
7. Seventh speaker
Is you. Yes, you. The bride. But do not worry; if you have read our pointers for the good speech, then you will do just fine.